Sunday, August 16, 2026

Faithful Stubbornness that Clings to Jesus - Matthew 15: 21-28

Have you stood in the footsteps of this unknown, unnamed Canaanite mother, begging, pleading to God, only to have it feel like God is against you? Perhaps not so much with a child who has a demon, but perhaps one who is critically ill, or your spouse, or a parent; perhaps it was your own self with a heavy diagnosis or even fighting for your life; perhaps you were the most recent round of layoffs or outright fired unexpectedly. Whatever it was, your world was rocked, turned upside down, inside out, and every which way but loose. As a child of God, you know – as the hymn says – to take it to the Lord in prayer. You practically wore out the knees in your pants and put bald spots in the carpet from where you knelt at night beside your bed, you wore the finish off the chair at your dining room table where you sat, Bible in front of you, calling God’s name, seeking help, praying for an answer. You prayed, invoked, cried out, wept, sought an answer, yearning for just a word of hope, encouragement, asking for the Lord’s hands to be gracious and merciful to you, your family, your loved one, and instead you get a hand held up: Stop.

That doesn’t make sense, does it? We think of Jesus’ hands and the many, many times they were extended in mercy and compassion. Just a few weeks ago, we read about Him having compassion on a hungry crowd and feeding them, those hands breaking and blessing bread and fish to feed 5000 plus people. Last Sunday, we read of Jesus’ hand dipping into the wind-tossed waters to rescue a sinking, drowning, faith-shaken disciple who only a moment earlier asked to come out to Jesus on those same waters. We think of His hands held in blessing even as He is ascending into heaven, hands delivering words of encouragement and hope to seeing-yet-not-understanding disciples. We think of these moments, moments that show us love that is without end, mercy without extinction, compassion without limits. If He has compassion - even over His enemies while being crucified!!! – why is His hand held against me?


People sometimes speak about the silence of God, and how terrifying that can be. True. I’ve been there. But even harder is when it seems God isn’t merely silent, but actually standing against you.

Just consider this Canaanite mother. Although she is outside the family of Abraham, she comes to Jesus with the prayer of faith used by God’s people for millennia: “Have mercy on me.” Her request is actually not for her, but for her demon-possessed daughter. Surely, the mother understandably thinks, this Jesus who has been merciful in healing others, would also be merciful to my own child! Yet, Jesus is silent. The disciples shoo her away like a mutt sniffing at ankles, and it seems that even Jesus is agreeing. “I was sent only to the lost sheep of the house of Israel,” He answers – and, notice, He is speaking to the disciples, not the woman! If it were in our modern culture, I could see Him nodding and throwing His shoulders up and adding, “What can I do?” Refusing to take silence for an answer, she rushes around, gets in front of Jesus, and falls to her knees, pleading for a favorable answer for her daughter: Lord, help me. This time, she is flatly and directly dismissed by Jesus Himself. “It is not right to take the children’s bread and throw it to the dogs.”  Don’t think Jesus is calling her an unflattering name. He’s using a powerful image to describe her place as a Canannite, as a woman, as someone who is outside the family of the children of Israel. Regardless how it’s intended, it’s as if his hand is held up – Stop! This isn’t for you! Think of how I treat my dog when she wants the pizza crust, and you get the idea.

So, what does faith do when the object of faith – Jesus – seems to be behaving in a way that is so contra what we expect, so opposite of what we know of Him and His character? What do you do when it seems Jesus is being unfaithful to who He is as the Son of God?

The book of Hebrews defines faith as, “The substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen.” We speak of faith in two ways: a noun, the Christian faith, the objective and unchanging truth of Scripture as we summarize in the Creeds; and a Christian’s faith, the verb, the subjective believing of what the Scriptures say which, at times, ebbs and flows, hot and cold. In both aspects, the Christian faith and a Christian’s faith, faith rests in the invisible working of God for our salvation and the culmination of all things in the person and work of Jesus. Thus, the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen.  That is the challenge of Christianity; that is the challenge of the Christian faith.

While both the Christian faith and the Christian’s faith rest in the invisible, the Invisible is the very promises of God, all which are found in fulfillment in Christ Jesus. And Jesus is not a figment of the imagination, a will o’ the whisp idea that someone came up with. He is God’s Son who entered into time and took on human flesh to dwell among us. According to His human flesh, He experienced everything you and I know including – back to our theme today – including when He prayed that, if possible, His upcoming cup of suffering might be taken away and His own Father seemed to say, “No; stop; away from Me, dear Son. Away…away…away!!!” A short time later, Jesus cried out to the Father, “Why have you forsaken me?” Where was the still, small voice that spoke to Elijah or the voice that thundered on Sinai? Of all, Jesus should have been heard in His holiness and purity!

This was for you. He not only died the sinner’s death, completely contaminated with our sins, He also endured the silence of God, the separation from the Father on your behalf, suffering hell on earth for you. For three days, the silence of God echoed from heaven to earth. The morning of the Resurrection, the silence was broken by the angel’s proclamation, “He is not here; He is risen as He said.” That declaration stands as evidence that the Father accepted His Son’s death for us, assuring the our sins are forgiven and uniting us with the Father through Christ Jesus. That union, then, means that the Father will never turn His back on us and the Son’s nail-marked hands are never held against us.

This is most certainly true. Yet, there are those moments in life when it seems as though God is silent, as if Jesus’ hands are held out against us. So, the question remains: what does faith do when the object of faith – Jesus – seems to be behaving in a way that is so contra what we expect, so opposite of what we know of Him and His character? What do you do when it seems Jesus is being unfaithful to who He is as the Son of God? “It’s not right to take the children’s bread and throw it to the dogs.”

I like the way the poet, Jan Richardson [1], helps us understand how faith doggedly clings to the promises of God, even when it seems the hands of the Lord are held out against us.

Stubborn Blessing

Don’t tell me no.

I have seen you
feed the thousands,
seen miracles spill
from your hands
like water, like wine,
seen you with circles
and circles of crowds
pressed around you
and not one soul
turned away.

Don’t start with me.

I am saying
you can close the door
but I will keep knocking.
You can go silent
but I will keep shouting.
You can tighten the circle
but I will trace a bigger one
around you,
around the life of my child
who will tell you
no one surpasses a mother
for stubbornness.

I am saying
I know what you
can do with crumbs
and I am claiming mine,
every morsel and scrap
you have up your sleeve.
Unclench your hand,
your heart.
Let the scraps fall
like manna,
like mercy
for the life
of my child,
the life of
the world.

Don’t you tell me no.

Don’t misread this: yes, the woman wanted her daughter to be healed, but more than that, she was willing to sit at the base of the table and receive whatever little bits of grace the Lord has to offer her. Her faith was great. It was not great because the woman thought she could wear Jesus down by nagging Him enough, or if she used the right words, or if she could just pull hard enough at His heart strings. Her faith rested in who she knew who Jesus is – even when it seemed His hands were held out against her. She knew Him to be both Lord and Son of David. He was Israel’s Messiah who comes with such abundance that there were leftovers for someone like her, a woman from Canaan. And, out of His great generosity, His mercy overflows outward from Israel to her, a Canaanite woman who knew she deserved nothing except by God’s grace which made her welcome at the table of Jesus.

 You cling to what you know about Jesus, not what it seems, but what you know is objectively true of His mercy and grace. “Yes, Lord, yet even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their master’s table.” It’s as if she’s saying, Jesus, even the leftovers of your compassion are enough for me. In other words, you cling to what is true about the mercy, love and compassion of Jesus, even if you don’t see or feel how it can be true.

By grace, through faith in Christ, Jesus’ hand that seemed to be held up saying, “No, I don’t think so,” becomes a hand that is held up in blessing. The hidden mercy of Christ is revealed. Baptized into Christ, we are welcomed to the table, no longer dogs worthy of just the scraps but of the finest of bread and wine, the rich fulness of Christ’s body and blood. In answer to your prayer, “Lord have mercy on me,” here, the Son of David welcomes you, not as dogs, but as Sons and Daughters of the King: come and eat. The table is prepared.

 

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